Commitment, as defined in the Cambridge Dictionary, is the willingness to give your time and energy to something that you believe in or a promise or firm decision to do something (L#1). It is a pledge or undertaking that each individual takes. Commitment for me is something that we had pledged to finish and give our best to. Commitment is mostly exhibited through marriage between couples, friendship between friends, and students towards excellence.
“Marriage involves a bold choice.” is a statement found in an article by Hoertdoerfer and Ungar. If a man proposes that a woman be his girlfriend, he is taking a step towards commitment, a choice that should absolutely be affirmative. After years of being in a relationship, the man would then have to decide whether or not he is up to take their relationship to the next step, marriage. Entering a marriage comes with great responsibility and requires full commitment not only from the man but from his woman as well. A lot of marriages fail, because the husband or wife is not willing to give full commitment to the other. When this happens, the people involved tend to get rid of the emptiness through things such as drinking, gambling, or having an affair. As Kellerman said, “What’s good in your marriage comes from the promises that you’ve already kept, the promise to honor each other, to laugh together, to stand by each other in good times and bad” (2002). The commitment that was made in front of the altar should remain intact even if hardships come. Like in the blog of Peralta, the couple that he had interviewed had already been married for 40 years. And through the last 10 years of their marriage, the husband had suffered from four strokes. Even so, the wife kept her vows. She thoroughly put her vows into practice. Given that this couple had undergone 4 trials in their forty years of marriage, they managed to keep the commitment alive. This couple believed that the vow that they had made at the altar is a lifetime contract between them and God. No matter what circumstance may be met along the way, the commitment must remain
Friends should be loyal to each other all the time. Friendship will only last if people remain loyal to each other. For example, a group of friends may share issues to each other that are confidential due to involving other people outside the circle. No matter what the circumstance may be, it should be kept within the circle. Friends should be there in times of need. A friend is someone you can run to if you needs something. Friends should continue their journey as friends even if they are entering different seasons in their lives. “Good friends are like stars…You don’t always see them, but you know they are always there.”(unknown) After graduating from high school, my friends and I had different plans of where to study. Now, even if we do not go to the same school, we still find the time to catch up and update each other on where we are in our lives. There should be no secrets going on between friends. Marlene Dietrich once said, “It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.” True friends can be contacted anytime of the day. In the paper of Fuller, he talked about being loyal to a friend. He talked about loyalty between friends. He once told his friend about a situation. His friend kept the secret, and it showed how loyal his friend was to him. “Some people break promises for the pleasure of breaking them” so sad that other people tend to take friendship lightly. Friends should be a forever thing.
As a student we are also committed to excel in class. It is a responsibility that we need to fulfill as part of our payment to our parents’ hard work. Part of excelling in class is passing all the requirements and doing our best in all the things that is expected for us. According to Oblinger, “We all must commit to learning” (2010). As a student, we are committed into lifelong learning. It does not mean that learning comes to a stop once we graduate. We should continue to study and learn things that we are unfamiliar with. Ting once said that during his medical studies, he came to a point wherein he called it as “Medical Academic Dryness”. He described it as a condition wherein he sees everything as a routine and neglects to improve in the field of academics. We as a student tend to have this feeling if we do not want what we are doing or studying. But never the less should we do our best in whatever field. He ended his article with the phrase, “To study well is the least we do and as a student this is our major task right now.”
In conclusion, commitment can be seen in our daily lives. First, we should be sure of the commitment that we are entering. If one needs to study for it before committing into something then do so because committing is a sacred act. We should be sure before entering it, because it is impractical to commit if you are not sure with what circumstance you are entering with. It is hard to commit if you do not know what you are entering. You should be aware of the commitment that you are entering before considering to commit. Before entering marriage, one should know the commitment he is dealing with. Friends should know the commitment they have to each other. As a student, we also should know that we need to do our best in everything we do and excel in every craft we made. One must remember to first decide before committing to something, because there is no turning back once you have decided. To sum up my paper with the quote by Paul Meyer “Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.”
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